Archive for December, 2014

Why do I/we need a Coach? I/we don’t need therapy!

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

So often this question comes up when your attorney mentions that the Team approach in the Collaborative Process of divorcing involves a Coach.  While a Coach is a Licensed Mental Health Professional, and may even have his or her own therapy practice, the Coach is not providing therapy.  They have in fact undergone specific training to provide resources to you as a couple working through getting a Collaborative divorce.

To put it simply, Therapy ‘unpacks’ the issues to facilitate individual/couple healing, whereas Coaching ‘contains’ the issues in order to help you get to a more peaceful resolution as you reconstruct the family into two separate households. Much of the healing will take place post divorce. This process will help set the stage for mutual respect to achieve an outcome that benefits both you and the children during a sad and difficult time.


The Collaboratively trained Coach/Facilitator will:

*Identify goals, clarify interests, and concerns

*Provide effective communication tips

*Reduce misunderstandings and reduce emotional intensity

*Provide specific tools for problem solving and overcoming obstacles

*Collaborate with the couple, their attorneys and other involved professionals

*Develop effective co-parenting skills when children are involved

* Facilitate Team Meetings to ensure the best atmosphere for decision making

Karen Ela Kenny, LICSW

Karen Ela Kenny, LICSW

Karen Ela Kenny, LICSW is a Collaborative Divorce Coach and Facilitator in Nashua, NH.

Affordable Care Act Health Insurance may be best option after divorce

Wednesday, December 10th, 2014

Keeping all family members covered by health insurance is usually a shared goal in collaborative cases. If both spouses have insurance available through employment, that provides options.  Getting divorced allows signing up for insurance outside of “open enrollment” periods.  Some employers allow an ex-spouse to remain on the family coverage.

If neither of these options are available, the Affordable Care Act may be the best choice.  Federal tax credits will help pay the premium for a single person earning (or expected to earn in 2015) approximately $11,600 to $46,600.  Alimony counts as “earnings.”  Coverage may not be denied because of pre-existing conditions.  Preventive care is free (no copay).  For more information:

Attorney Honey Hastings

Attorney Honey Hastings

Attorney Hastings is a collaborative divorce lawyer with Honey Hastings, Counselors at Law in Wilton, N.H.