Why do I/we need a Coach? I/we don’t need therapy!

So often this question comes up when your attorney mentions that the Team approach in the Collaborative Process of divorcing involves a Coach.  While a Coach is a Licensed Mental Health Professional, and may even have his or her own therapy practice, the Coach is not providing therapy.  They have in fact undergone specific training to provide resources to you as a couple working through getting a Collaborative divorce.

To put it simply, Therapy ‘unpacks’ the issues to facilitate individual/couple healing, whereas Coaching ‘contains’ the issues in order to help you get to a more peaceful resolution as you reconstruct the family into two separate households. Much of the healing will take place post divorce. This process will help set the stage for mutual respect to achieve an outcome that benefits both you and the children during a sad and difficult time.


The Collaboratively trained Coach/Facilitator will:

*Identify goals, clarify interests, and concerns

*Provide effective communication tips

*Reduce misunderstandings and reduce emotional intensity

*Provide specific tools for problem solving and overcoming obstacles

*Collaborate with the couple, their attorneys and other involved professionals

*Develop effective co-parenting skills when children are involved

* Facilitate Team Meetings to ensure the best atmosphere for decision making

Karen Ela Kenny, LICSW

Karen Ela Kenny, LICSW

Karen Ela Kenny, LICSW is a Collaborative Divorce Coach and Facilitator in Nashua, NH. http://nhdivorcecoach.com/